“Finished! We are old now. We are retired. We can’t run now, can’t hurry up, can’t think like youths.”
These are the sentences flowing out from those who have crossed 50 , or have retired or whose sons and daughters have married. All of a sudden, they bow down, wrinkles appear on their face., they start carrying walking-stick, their gait slows down. Their talks are full of phrases like – “Life is meaningless”, “Everything is illusory”, “How much time left?”, Now I have one leg in the grave”. And many such things more. It seems their body-mind-whole personality is under slow but steady attack by the old age. Their total personality seems to withering out. They lose interest from the life!
Is such thinking necessary? Justified? Natural?
Not at all. Body can certainly grow old, but there is no need to feel mentally old. It can remain young forever. Old age is more a mental process than the physical one.
So then, how to keep the old age at bay? What is the key to eternal youth?
He writes that old is loss of enthusiasm. One does grow old till manifestations of youth have not ceased. This means – certain specific acts. Which are – a conscious effort to keep mind and face smiling, by a conscious effort of inverting anger and depression. Meaning thereby- happiness, joy and humour.The subject has been extensively researched. Many solutions also have been offered. J V Cerney , one of such researchers, has offered many good suggestions. Let us briefly look at them.
Any one can do this, if so decided, at any age.
We shall have to play bodily – physical notes to enjoy the music of happy life. This will necessitate total liveliness, interest and alertness. This calls for remaining fit by keeping muscles and veins young with the help of deep breathing and other appropriate techniques. For a life, all these mean millions.
The moment your enthusiasm for youth wanes, you commence drift towards old age. Rest assured that the perforation of youth has begun, the moment mind starts aging and grand liveliness is on way out.
So, what is youth?
Youth means – speed, spark, feeling of vastness, enthusiasm, inspiration, happiness! Youth means
vigour, effervescence. The bubbles of motion keep on oozing out of it. This makes your personality always attractive. Youth means innocence, fountain of fearlessness, and charm of irresponsibility. Youth means immaturity. Combination of lion and rat in one body. Youth is unmediated fearlessness, which is inexperienced. It is curiosity, urge to explore, readiness to cross the horizon. Youth means a pleasing face that stands out from the crowd to welcome you whole-heartedly.
All this is youth, to be continually presented by a mature person. This is to be done right now. You have to play by these new rules, even as your reflection in the mirror of past is showing advancing age and hardening of muscles – if you want a long and quality life!
But, how do it?
The first step to long and quality life is: “Think young”. We need to act as if we have all the time and power. Never recall the past and aim to reach beyond the horizons of the future. Have pleasant thoughts all the time. Paint your fading sky with colours of sunrise. Think always of being healthy, happy, powerful, full of energy, creative. Always have new ideas. Keep pace with surrounding world. (Of course, for knowledge, not for stress.) Avoid negativity, hate, and criticism. Love every one whole-heartedly and get love in exchange. Generate courage and joy so as to infect people around you.
Develop hobbies, with commitment. Pursue them religiously. Find out reason to do some or other activity. Stand up, run, never become stone like life-less. Be prepared to make your tomorrow more meaningful .Fill it up with peace, joy, smile, dream, satisfaction. Forget the statement ‘have grown old, hence need to be little more serious and mature’, let the joy gush out, always, consciously.
Re-experience youth, be inquisitive, keep on acquiring up-to-date knowledge, fill up eyes with curiosity, banish fear, fill up the mind systematically with youth … The moment this happens, long, youthful life starts in spite of advanced age.
That’s it! They are old now!In fact, youth or old age is state of mind. Many times people start getting old no sooner they have retired. Why? Because they stop thinking, being active and having ideals. They always nurture fear, uncertainty, worries and thoughts of death in their mind. They shun sense of humour.
I recall a saying of thinker Fe l’ Meadows about youth: “More your self-confidence and hope for the future, more young you will be. More your trust, faith, politeness, respect for others, more young you will be. You are young so long as you can feel joy, grandeur and beauty. The old age shall not visit you till your mind keeps on sending messages of youth to your body.”
Always fill up your mind with faith, confidence and fearlessness. Rest assured, even if your physical age advances, you won’t be old. Say ‘No’ to – depression, negativity, gossips and complaint-mongering. Then youth is all yours.
Why not enjoy the present wait for the future like a child?
Why fear advancing age?
Why complain, criticise or cry?
Why not reveal the divinity from within?
Youth is then here, Right now, for ever.
I recall a lady. Let us call her Kantaben. Her husband passed away at the old age. What did she inherit? Several unpaid bills? Insurance claim? Well no! Debt! She had lost two sons and the daughter had lost both legs in a recent car accident. Her age, 70 years!
Normally, anybody in her position would break down. But Kantaben very well knew the secret of life. She was aware of positive thinking. She started up a telephone service at her home, in spite of all these calamities, advancing age and depleting energy. Her disabled daughter managed it during afternoons and nights, but if someone would ring up early morning, Kantaben’s sweet “good Morning” would greet the caller. As a result, their workload increased. They had to install a new switching board. Additional help had to be employed. When anyone would comment for happiness and peace on her face, she would reply: “Aha! Life is truly worth living. It is indeed very pleasant to help others.” On asking the reason she would respond: “ I have provided positive thoughts to my mind. I have learnt to be young by mind and heart. I believe that if mind is young, then everything else is also young! Perpetually young!”
Remember mind reacts first to any event, the body feels the effect afterwards.So this is the secret of filling up youth in the old age.
Hence, generate good deal of love in the heart to preserve the feeling of youth. The glands will soon expand, secreting the hormones. The face muscles will relax. Eyes will smile up. The aura of youth will surround the body. The more this happens, more the body will respond. Result? Eternal youth!
Always keep your mind engaged with these thoughts:
- I shall always try to appear attractive.
- I shall get out of shell of my ego to do something for others.
- I shall always develop new interests.
- My body and face shall always radiate healthy and happy thoughts.
- I shall never be guided by negative thoughts.
- I shall not fear old age.
- I shall be careful about healthy diet and exercise.
- I shall plan maintaining a healthy life.
- I shall fantasize happiness in my mind.
- I shall never feel loneliness.
- I shall maintain my self-respect.
- I shall live an intellectual life.
Dr. Ralph Bitty, – a researcher in the field of geriatrics – says: In short, the key to real mental health is to truly understand your own strength and its development.”
Transliteration by : Susmita Vaishnav