I Overflow Within – 1st Chapter of “Address of Happiness” [a.k.a. સુખનું સરનામું]

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“Finished! We are old now. We are retired. We can’t run now, can’t hurry up, can’t think like youths.”

These are the sentences flowing out from those who have crossed 50 , or have retired or whose sons and daughters have married. All of a sudden, they bow down, wrinkles appear on their face., they start carrying walking-stick, their gait slows down. Their talks are full of phrases like – “Life is meaningless”, “Everything is illusory”, “How much time left?”, Now I have one leg in the grave”. And many such things more. It seems their body-mind-whole personality is under slow but steady attack by the old age. Their total personality seems to withering out. They lose interest from the life!

Is such thinking necessary? Justified? Natural?

Not at all.  Body can certainly grow old, but there is no need to feel mentally old. It can remain young forever. Old age is more a mental process than the physical one.

So then, how to keep the old age at bay? What is the key to eternal youth?
He writes that old is loss of enthusiasm. One does grow old till manifestations of youth have not ceased. This means – certain specific acts. Which are – a conscious effort to keep mind and face smiling, by a conscious effort of inverting anger and depression.  Meaning thereby- happiness, joy and humour.The subject has been extensively researched. Many solutions also have been offered. J V Cerney  , one of such researchers, has offered many good suggestions. Let us briefly look at them.

Any one can do this, if so decided, at any age.

We shall have to play bodily – physical notes to enjoy the music of happy life. This will necessitate total liveliness, interest and alertness. This calls for remaining fit by keeping muscles and veins young with the help of deep breathing and other appropriate techniques. For a life, all these mean millions.

The moment your enthusiasm for youth wanes, you commence drift towards old age. Rest assured that the perforation of youth has begun, the moment mind starts aging and grand liveliness is on way out.

So, what is youth?

Youth means – speed, spark, feeling of vastness, enthusiasm, inspiration, happiness! Youth means


vigour, effervescence. The bubbles of motion keep on oozing out of it. This makes your personality always attractive. Youth means innocence, fountain of fearlessness, and charm of irresponsibility. Youth means immaturity. Combination of lion and rat in one body. Youth is unmediated fearlessness, which is inexperienced. It is curiosity, urge to explore, readiness to cross the horizon. Youth means a pleasing face that stands out from the crowd to welcome you whole-heartedly.

All this is youth, to be continually presented by a mature person. This is to be done right now. You have to play by these new rules, even as your reflection in the mirror of past is showing advancing age and hardening of muscles – if you want a long and quality life!

But, how do it?

The first step to long and quality life is: “Think young”. We need to act as if we have all the time and power. Never recall the past and aim to reach beyond the horizons of the future. Have pleasant thoughts all the time. Paint your fading sky with colours of sunrise. Think always of being healthy, happy, powerful, full of energy, creative. Always have new ideas. Keep pace with surrounding world. (Of course, for knowledge, not for stress.) Avoid negativity, hate, and criticism. Love every one whole-heartedly and get love in exchange. Generate courage and joy so as to infect people around you.

Develop hobbies, with commitment. Pursue them religiously. Find out reason to do some or other activity. Stand up, run, never become stone like life-less. Be prepared to make your tomorrow more meaningful .Fill it up with peace, joy, smile, dream, satisfaction. Forget the statement ‘have grown old, hence need to be little more serious and mature’, let the joy gush out, always, consciously.

Re-experience youth, be inquisitive, keep on acquiring up-to-date knowledge, fill up eyes with curiosity, banish fear, fill up the mind systematically with youth … The moment this happens, long, youthful life starts in spite of advanced age.
That’s it! They are old now!In fact, youth or old age is state of mind. Many times people start getting old no sooner they have retired. Why? Because they stop thinking, being active and having ideals. They always nurture fear, uncertainty, worries and thoughts of death in their mind. They shun sense of humour.

I recall a saying of thinker Fe l’ Meadows about youth: “More your self-confidence and hope for the future, more young you will be. More your trust, faith, politeness, respect for others, more young you will be. You are young so long as you can feel joy, grandeur and beauty. The old age shall not visit you till your mind keeps on sending messages of youth to your body.”

Always fill up your mind with faith, confidence and fearlessness. Rest assured, even if your physical age advances, you won’t be old. Say ‘No’ to – depression, negativity, gossips and complaint-mongering. Then youth is all yours.

Why not enjoy the present wait for the future like a child?

Why fear advancing age?

Why complain, criticise or cry?

Why not reveal the divinity from within?

Youth is then here, Right now, for ever.

I recall a lady. Let us call her Kantaben. Her husband passed away at the old age. What did she inherit? Several unpaid bills? Insurance claim?  Well no! Debt! She had lost two sons and the daughter had lost both legs in a recent car accident. Her age, 70 years!

Normally, anybody in her position would break down. But Kantaben very well knew the secret of life. She was aware of positive thinking. She started up a telephone service at her home, in spite of all these calamities, advancing age and depleting energy. Her disabled daughter managed it during afternoons and nights, but if someone would ring up early morning, Kantaben’s sweet “good Morning” would greet the caller. As a result, their workload increased. They had to install a new switching board. Additional help had to be employed. When anyone would comment for happiness and peace on her face, she would reply: “Aha! Life is truly worth living. It is indeed very pleasant to help others.” On asking the reason she would respond: “ I have provided positive thoughts to my mind. I have learnt to be young by mind and heart. I believe that if mind is young, then everything else  is also young! Perpetually young!”
Remember mind reacts first to any event, the body feels the effect afterwards.So this is the secret of filling up youth in the old age.

Hence, generate good deal of love in the heart to preserve the feeling of youth. The glands will   soon expand, secreting the hormones. The face muscles will relax. Eyes will smile up. The aura of youth will surround the body. The more this happens, more the body will respond. Result? Eternal youth!

Always keep your mind engaged with these thoughts:

  • I shall always try to appear attractive.
  • I shall get out of shell of my ego to do something for others.
  • I shall always develop new interests.
  • My body and face shall always radiate healthy and happy thoughts.
  • I shall never be guided by negative thoughts.
  • I shall not fear old age.
  • I shall be careful about healthy diet and exercise.
  • I shall plan maintaining a healthy life.
  • I shall fantasize happiness in my mind.
  • I shall never feel loneliness.
  • I shall maintain my self-respect.
  • I shall live an intellectual life.

Dr. Ralph Bitty, – a researcher in the field of geriatrics – says: In short, the key to real mental health is to truly understand your own strength and its development.”

Transliteration by : Susmita Vaishnav

Preface to the book ‘Address of Happiness’ [a.k.a. સુખનું સરનામું] by Shri Haresh Dholakia

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Longing for peace and health seems to become acute with the progress, as the 21st century marches on. Whereas on one hand pressure for information mounts, competition aggravates acute mental stress, to which, on the other hand, the problems – like lack of identity; loneliness; scarce exchange of communications; advancing age – of urbanization add up. As a result, even though progress is attained, social disturbances and psychosomatic problems also increase. Great efforts, too, are being afoot to find the solutions.

The proof of all this is sky-rocketing of related literature. On one hand rims of literature is published on motivation to win the competition or to carry on the progress, on the other hand literature to improve psychosomatic health is also being churned out so as to mitigate the stress generated by the speed of progress. The rise in sale of such books seems to corroborate corresponding high demand.

I have personal proof of this phenomenon – books or even booklets written by me are much sought after and are lapped up immediately on the publication. Publication of three to four editions of these books seems quite routine affair.

The book, titled ‘Key to Happiness’ [a.k.a. સુખની ચાવી] published recently prove this. Most of the copies of the book were sold in the first year of the publication and demand still does not seem to have saturated. So, re-print is under way. Many readers of the book ring up on phone or write letters as well.

These responses have inspired me to take up the subject of comprehension and attainment of mental health. Hence I have ventured into another book. ‘Address of Happiness’ [a.k.a. સુખનું સરનામું] – of the same genre. In this book, the essays have been compiled to enable living and thinking for attaining all-round individual and collective health. It contains discussions relating to living, away from depression, positive life and maintaining healthy thinking. The writings are inspired by the thoughts of universally acclaimed management experts and philosophers. Indian Philosophy has been relied upon to the maximum as it is considered more relevant for the purpose. Thus, these essays have influence of contemporary-to-classical philosophies. We trust that this global thinking would help the readers in being and remaining healthy; as well as living, every moment, in peace & happiness and love.

These articles were published in my regular column in Kutchmitra, hence I am grateful to Shri Kirtibhai, its Editor. I  am also indebted to those great writers whose books I have referred to. They have helped me to live healthy personally and to share them as well.

‘Key to Happiness’ [a.k.a. સુખની ચાવી] was published by R.R. Sheth & Company Pvt. Ltd., which received encouraging response. Hence, they immediately agreed to publish the present book, too. I thank Shri Chintanbhai Sheth for this.

Many friends have greatly contributed in discussing and clarifying several points and my family spared me from responsibilities, thereby enabling me to devote maximum time in writing of the book, I am grateful to all of them. Always.

I trust that like all previously published books, this book will also be helpful in healthy-thinking  and in maintaining the daily health.

As always, I look forward to suggestions and comments on this book to help me in continually improving my writing.

Translation by:   

SUSMITA VAISHNAV


Address of Happiness a.k.a સુખનું સરનામું

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આપણે અહીં “સુખનું સરનામું” પુસ્તક, જેના લેખક શ્રી હરેશ ધોળકિયા છે, નું અંગ્રેજીમાં ભાષાંતરણ વાંચીશું
પુસ્તકના લેખકે પ્રસ્તાવનામાં કહ્યું છે તેમ દરેક પ્રકરણ ‘કચ્છમિત્ર’માં સ્વતંત્ર લેખ તરીકે પ્રસિધ્ધથયેલ. તે દ્રષ્ટિએ, દરેક પ્રકરણને, એટલે કે દરેક પૉસ્ટને, એક સ્વતંત્ર લેખની રીતે પણ  વાંચી શકાશે.

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પુનર્મુદ્રણ

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ISBN : 978-93-80868-71-4

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We would be reading the transliteration of the book “ Address of Happiness” by  Shri Haresh Dholakia .

I propose to post transliteration of each chapter of the book in subsequent posts.
As stated by the author in the preface to the book, each chapter was published as independent article in ‘Kutchmitra’. Hence, we would be able to read each chapter, and therefore, each post, on stand alone basis.

The details of the book are as here under:

Author

Haresh Dholakia

hareshdhlakia@yahoo.com

Publisher

R.R. Sheth & Company Pvt. Ltd.

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Reprint

June 2011

ISBN : 978-93-80868-71-4

Price

Rs.100